tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post8100774103747437111..comments2023-09-10T06:49:28.959-04:00Comments on The Unbearable Banishment: A deep cut begets deep angerThe Unbearable Banishmenthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05704208968630911021noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-64310685289177466992011-09-30T09:00:18.825-04:002011-09-30T09:00:18.825-04:00sugar, just so you know, i STILL have that feeling...sugar, just so you know, i STILL have that feeling when one of my (now grown) chicks is verbally attacked! <i>i just don't respond out loud</i> *laughing* <br /><br />mrs. wife did the right thing.<br />xoxoxosavannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04310843901371718758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-21151721300776583272011-09-28T04:47:23.543-04:002011-09-28T04:47:23.543-04:00I agree with the others, a face to face meeting wi...I agree with the others, a face to face meeting with the teacher is a good idea, and she (he?) will be obliged to act on your concerns. It also lets the school know that you're keeping an eye on them. <br /><br />I completely understand that hot flush of anger that flares up though. I wouldn't trust myself to keep calm if I ever thought anyone was harming one of mine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-16476796653337829152011-09-27T10:49:23.177-04:002011-09-27T10:49:23.177-04:00I recall being called names when I was a shy littl...I recall being called names when I was a shy little girl with large front teeth. Luckily, I wasn't damaged by that experience... AND I grew into those teeth! Mrs. Wife is wise and I'm glad you are following her (and Dinahmow and Daisyfae's) advice. More than likely, it will all pass without any repercussions.Ponita in Real Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06886875733169389887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-31624578514627869292011-09-27T08:07:16.005-04:002011-09-27T08:07:16.005-04:00I was going to suggest contacting the teacher too ...I was going to suggest contacting the teacher too but it looks like you've got all that under control. *hugs* to your little oneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-41144072955605414092011-09-27T07:08:35.154-04:002011-09-27T07:08:35.154-04:00Years after relocating/settling down to/in Raleigh...Years after relocating/settling down to/in Raleigh, I came to learn that the one person who I vehemently held resentment toward for bullying me was living just down the road in Holly Springs. It was a strange sensation --accelerated heartbeats...tightening of muscles-- imagining the reality, however irrational, of running into this dick. I don't know why he had it out for me...or whether I, as a shy introverted 6th grader, exaggerated his methods of personal amusement passing the time on the bus to school (trapped on a bus dealing with that! at least when I got to school I could keep an arm's length). <br /><br />Chances are, your healthy household and support by teachers and other people in the community will overcome whatever bullying is going on. The feelings may be with her for a very long time, even if the memory fades. But hopefully it will eventually emerge in her character as something positive and productive.JZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12879490525987015381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-2527378289049428792011-09-27T06:51:58.030-04:002011-09-27T06:51:58.030-04:00AK: No doubt this will all have been forgotten by ...AK: No doubt this will all have been forgotten by the end of the semester but when you're in the middle of it, it can be quite a distraction. My wife gave the same calm advice as daisy and dinah. In these matters, I will defer to the women.<br /><br />Pat: I hope the animals who bullied you as a young child saw your photo spreads in magazines later in life. The best of all revenges.The Unbearable Banishmenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704208968630911021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-28587032982054148132011-09-27T05:28:43.222-04:002011-09-27T05:28:43.222-04:00Good advice from Daisy. I know you'll keep a ...Good advice from Daisy. I know you'll keep a watchful eye.<br />Being a puny child I suffered some physical bullying and learned to lash with my tongue proving a literate background can be an asset.<br />A big bracing hug for the little one.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01529798893653033970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-35507307309348880802011-09-27T05:21:39.498-04:002011-09-27T05:21:39.498-04:00This is yet another one of those things for which ...This is yet another one of those things for which a "What Does a Dad Do Now" manual would come in damn handy. My kids are both adults now but reading your post brought back - in a rush - my very emotional reaction to an episode in which the younger of my two was really getting teased. <br /><br />Suffice it to say, the input you've already received from dinah and daisy is better than what mine would be. <br /><br />Hope this all works out for you and your little girl.Adam Kennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876476233214402228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-39993824237702292172011-09-26T20:39:42.656-04:002011-09-26T20:39:42.656-04:00Sausage: If I were younger and still a dope I migh...Sausage: If I were younger and still a dope I might do the whole parent thing but you're right. It'd never amount to anything. But about those weapons...<br /><br />dinah: I wish she were a bit more like 9-year old, who walks away unbothered when teased.<br /><br />daisy: Such sane advice. We have done just that; reached out to her teacher and have set up play dates. You women are smart.The Unbearable Banishmenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704208968630911021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-53173945744772301282011-09-26T18:36:47.570-04:002011-09-26T18:36:47.570-04:00take a deep breath... a word with the teacher (or ...take a deep breath... a word with the teacher (or a letter) is clearly within scope. activities outside of school can also help keep her engaged with other kids. by the next school year, it may have all blown over...<br /><br />but yeah. those visceral reactions are pretty damn powerful...daisyfaehttp://daisyfae.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-92080950486634011562011-09-26T17:48:24.342-04:002011-09-26T17:48:24.342-04:00Always a tricky one to deal with. Today, our schoo...Always a tricky one to deal with. Today, our schools here have posters all over the place, urging kids to report bullying. It doesn't seem to be working!<br />I was teased at school, but I was lucky-I had my natural happy disposition and some tough (thug!) friends!<br />I hope it's sorted soon and without any scars.<br /><br />Off topic, but you and some other locals may like this;<br />http://www.greenchairpress.com/blog/?p=1858dinahmowhttp://moreidlethoughts.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4341308729189935273.post-29990116001093659822011-09-26T13:56:38.572-04:002011-09-26T13:56:38.572-04:00Sounds like a tough situation, my temperament woul...Sounds like a tough situation, my temperament would make me wait for the father of the bully and have a wee word but that is silly and would solve nothing. I also had a pal commit suicide he was perpetually bullied to no end, my friend Keith and I would protect him as much as possible. A few years after we moved the the states, Chris took his own life ending years of pain...<br />I wish you only the best in this situation and I am sure you will handle it well.<br />PS. If you need any weapons I have a stockpile...Sausagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14563985186537460358noreply@blogger.com