The Unbearable Banishment: Marlboro Country

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Marlboro Country

My mom was just diagnosed with Pulmonary Fibrosis. Her lungs are badly and irreparably scarred. She is too old for a lung transplant and needs to be on oxygen 24/7. She can’t walk more than 100 feet without losing her breath. That parameter will shrink and eventually she’ll be bound to a wheelchair. She can only sleep sitting up.

She got this way, of course, because of cigarettes. The doctor asked how long she has been smoking. Ironically, she has never smoked a cigarette in her entire life. Not one. Her father and the two zeros she married were chain smokers, so she has been living inside a cloud of cigarette smoke her entire life.

If you smoke, you are no longer permitted to read my blog. Go away and don’t come back. Fucker.


Anonymous Anonymous said...

ouch. sorry to hear that... my mom smoked 2-3 packs a day for 65 years, but it was my dad that got cancer. well, unrelated cancer (colon), but it just seemed a bit backwards to me...

October 9, 2008 at 4:19 PM  
Blogger Digital Fortress said...

You have my most sincere sympathy.

Ironically my mother smoked, but my father didn’t and he is the one that died of cancer. :(

I've never smoked a cigarette and never will.

October 9, 2008 at 5:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am sorry. My dad was diagnosed with that right after my first husband's death in early 2006. They gave him months - literally - but an aggressive steriod treatment put it into remission. Now, of course, it is lung cancer that is killing him.

I wonder how all the smoke I have been exposed to via Dad and my siblings (and my late husband - he did quit but when the dementia set in he started up again) has harmed me. I am convinced my asthma is a direct result.

My sibs all still smoke - incredibly. I studiously avoid smokers now. I will even cross the street to get away from them hovering outside of buildings if I can. I feel sorry for them but I can't abide their entitlement attitudes.

October 9, 2008 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Rob said...

Sorry to hear it. You and your mom have my sympathies.

Like many, I too grew up with a chain smoker. I hope I don't have to pay for someone else's ignorance like your mom is.

Take care...

October 9, 2008 at 11:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My Grandad died of lung cancer because of the very same thing. Sympathies x

October 10, 2008 at 4:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

so sorry about your mother UB. I hope she gets to enjoy the time she has left and creates happy memories for your two little girls.

I don't smoke and neither did stephen. the cancer ended up in his lungs through metastasising.

life really sucks sometimes doesn't it?

October 10, 2008 at 6:09 AM  
Blogger The Unbearable Banishment said...

all: Thank you for taking the time to pass along your sympathies. Mrs. Wife and I appreciate it. Mom lives 500 miles away, so it’s really on my brother and sister, who still live in the same town, to deal with this on a daily basis. They’re the real heroes. All I do is send as much $$$ as my budget will allow. It’s feels hollow but it’s all I can do.

October 10, 2008 at 8:11 AM  
Anonymous nuttycow said...

UB - sorry to hear about your mum. As nursemyra I hope that the remaining time you have together is filled with great memories.

October 10, 2008 at 9:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow - and smokers bitched that the anti-smoking laws in NYC weren't fair to them.

Best of luck to you and your family.

October 10, 2008 at 9:21 AM  
Blogger Heidi said...

Sorry to hear about mom :(.

October 11, 2008 at 2:06 PM  
Blogger Pearl said...

Ah, crap. I'm so sorry to hear about this. I promised a very good friend that I would quit two hears ago. I cut back to a couple days a week, but I should quit, you're right.

October 12, 2008 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear about Mom, our prayers and thoughts are with you and yours.... take care... Ricky and Doreen from Cleveburgh

October 14, 2008 at 10:17 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear that.

October 15, 2008 at 6:24 PM  

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