The Unbearable Banishment: Marlboro Country

Thursday, October 9, 2008

Marlboro Country

My mom was just diagnosed with Pulmonary Fibrosis. Her lungs are badly and irreparably scarred. She is too old for a lung transplant and needs to be on oxygen 24/7. She can’t walk more than 100 feet without losing her breath. That parameter will shrink and eventually she’ll be bound to a wheelchair. She can only sleep sitting up.

She got this way, of course, because of cigarettes. The doctor asked how long she has been smoking. Ironically, she has never smoked a cigarette in her entire life. Not one. Her father and the two zeros she married were chain smokers, so she has been living inside a cloud of cigarette smoke her entire life.

If you smoke, you are no longer permitted to read my blog. Go away and don’t come back. Fucker.

13 Comments:

OpenID daisyfae said...

ouch. sorry to hear that... my mom smoked 2-3 packs a day for 65 years, but it was my dad that got cancer. well, unrelated cancer (colon), but it just seemed a bit backwards to me...

October 9, 2008 at 4:19 PM  
Blogger Digital Fortress said...

You have my most sincere sympathy.

Ironically my mother smoked, but my father didn’t and he is the one that died of cancer. :(

I've never smoked a cigarette and never will.

October 9, 2008 at 5:28 PM  
OpenID anniegirl1138 said...

I am sorry. My dad was diagnosed with that right after my first husband's death in early 2006. They gave him months - literally - but an aggressive steriod treatment put it into remission. Now, of course, it is lung cancer that is killing him.

I wonder how all the smoke I have been exposed to via Dad and my siblings (and my late husband - he did quit but when the dementia set in he started up again) has harmed me. I am convinced my asthma is a direct result.

My sibs all still smoke - incredibly. I studiously avoid smokers now. I will even cross the street to get away from them hovering outside of buildings if I can. I feel sorry for them but I can't abide their entitlement attitudes.

October 9, 2008 at 6:13 PM  
Anonymous Rob said...

Sorry to hear it. You and your mom have my sympathies.

Like many, I too grew up with a chain smoker. I hope I don't have to pay for someone else's ignorance like your mom is.

Take care...

October 9, 2008 at 11:04 PM  
OpenID ifmusicbe said...

My Grandad died of lung cancer because of the very same thing. Sympathies x

October 10, 2008 at 4:03 AM  
OpenID nursemyra said...

so sorry about your mother UB. I hope she gets to enjoy the time she has left and creates happy memories for your two little girls.

I don't smoke and neither did stephen. the cancer ended up in his lungs through metastasising.

life really sucks sometimes doesn't it?

October 10, 2008 at 6:09 AM  
Blogger The Unbearable Banishment said...

all: Thank you for taking the time to pass along your sympathies. Mrs. Wife and I appreciate it. Mom lives 500 miles away, so it’s really on my brother and sister, who still live in the same town, to deal with this on a daily basis. They’re the real heroes. All I do is send as much $$$ as my budget will allow. It’s feels hollow but it’s all I can do.

October 10, 2008 at 8:11 AM  
Anonymous nuttycow said...

UB - sorry to hear about your mum. As nursemyra I hope that the remaining time you have together is filled with great memories.

October 10, 2008 at 9:11 AM  
OpenID popomaticjeff said...

Wow - and smokers bitched that the anti-smoking laws in NYC weren't fair to them.

Best of luck to you and your family.

October 10, 2008 at 9:21 AM  
Blogger Heidi said...

Sorry to hear about mom :(.

October 11, 2008 at 2:06 PM  
Blogger Pearl said...

Ah, crap. I'm so sorry to hear about this. I promised a very good friend that I would quit two hears ago. I cut back to a couple days a week, but I should quit, you're right.
Pearl

October 12, 2008 at 7:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

So sorry to hear about Mom, our prayers and thoughts are with you and yours.... take care... Ricky and Doreen from Cleveburgh

October 14, 2008 at 10:17 PM  
Blogger Let's Kill Saturday Night said...

I am so sorry to hear that.

October 15, 2008 at 6:24 PM  

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